Side Hustle

Side Hustle – Do you have one? Do you have a passion or hobby that allows you to make some extra cash? My side hustle is my photography business. I’m an outdoor photographer so my side hustle is from spring to fall.

A side hustle is a way to make some extra cash that allows you flexibility to pursue what you’re most interested in. It can also be your true passion – it’s a chance to enjoy that passion without quitting your day job.

I grew up in a big family. I am one of 7 kids. With a big family comes hustle. There was always work to be done at home, the house needed to be cleaned often, dishes needed to be done (no dishwasher when I grew up), etc. I learned my hard work ethic at home. My parents never rested. There was no time for gaming, playing sports, etc.

I started babysitting at a young age to make my own money. As soon as I turned 16 I started working in the kitchen at a local nursing home and continued to babysit. I always seemed to carry a couple jobs growing up and through college. I’m not sure I know how to “not be busy”.  My last 3 years of college I worked full-time and went to college full-time at night. Life was busy.  During that last year of school, I planned our wedding and we bought our 1st home. After I graduated and we were married, I guess I felt like I needed a part-time job so I started at a local golf course driving around the beverage cart. The tips were good and it was a fun job outside.  I did this along with my full-time job for a few summers.  After that job passed I became an Uppercase Living consultant and when that slowed down I turned my passion of photography into a side hustle.  My photography side job has stuck for several years. I love it. I love taking photos, I love meeting new people, I love continuing to photograph my friends and family, and I love being creative. It’s a fun passion but not something I would want to do full-time. The extra cash is nice to enjoy some extras for my family.

So if you have a passion or hobby that you would like to do on the side for fun and for extra cash, go for it!!!  The fun part of a side hustle is you get to pick when you work and what fits your schedule and family. It’s a chance to get paid for something you love to do.

Be the girl who decided to go for it!

Do it! Try it!

Do it! Try it!  Today we are talking about doing the things you are putting off and stepping out of your comfort zone.

First, do it! —> Do you have a to-do list? Is it growing or shrinking? Do you need to just get it done? This list is the things you want to accomplish or want to do daily and maybe aren’t accomplishing. Whether it’s a workout, homework, eating healthier, cleaning out your closets, booking your family trip, etc. You get it, it’s your list of things you need to get done and you are  putting them off.  I need this reminder as well. I have some tasks on my to-do list I need to accomplish. I have a daily goal to work out and I generally get some form of exercise daily but some days I work a lot harder than other days (I slack off basically.) So let’s push ourselves together. No excuses. Whether we feel like it or not, we need to do it anyway.  Once it’s done, it feels damn good!

Try it! —> Think about your comfort zone. How many times have you stepped out of it?  I hope you have several events that quickly come to mind.  Think about those times you stepped out. Can you remember the worry or anxiety you had?  The questions. What if I fail?  What if I don’t know the answers? What if I don’t like the new change?  Now what do you feel. When you look back do you laugh a little at how much you worried and then how much you rocked the change. I hope so.  I can think of a few big changes I’ve made especially career wise. I wanted the change, challenge and career growth but also worried about the change. Six years ago I left my job at a retirement system after 15 years. I had never worked full-time anywhere else so the change scared me. I worried if I left what if I wouldn’t like my new job.  I kept looking back vs embracing the job offer. After some time of thinking, I jumped ship. I miss my friends but the challenges and growth I have accomplished in 6 years has been amazing.  Last year I was promoted to Deputy Director. I loved the challenges that presented.  Last month, I was promoted to Director of Information Technology. I stepped out of my comfort zone and I LOVE IT.  My days fly by, I’m challenged and I’m accomplishing a lot. I do not have all the answers but I do have the mindset, determination and work ethic to figure it out.

“All things are difficult before they are easy.” — Thomas Fuller

When I look back the big changes is when I created the most growth for myself. When you push against your comfort zone is where the real work and growth begin.  So my challenge to you – step out of your comfort zone. Take a leap.  You won’t know what you are truly capable of doing, until you try it.

If you need a cheerleader, reach out to me. If you are pondering a big change and need someone to bounce your idea off of, reach out to me.  (thphotos112@gmail.com) I would love to hear from you.

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place …but nothing grows there.”

Positive vibes only

We all crave positive vibes. Throughout our day we will come across positive and negative triggers.

It’s our job to process and control those triggers.

Negative triggers — I bet if you sat and thought about it you could come up with a list of things that trigger negatively for you. Triggers that cause anxiety and worry. These triggers will be different for each of us. Some things that are negative triggers for me may not bother you at all. Identify your negative triggers, write your list down and then figure out a plan on how you are going to avoid those triggers.

Positive triggers – What makes you happy? We definitely control our happiness with our own thoughts so spend some time thinking about what your positive triggers are. Post those positive people/things somewhere you can see. Somewhere you will see daily so you are reminded of those positives in your life. Seeing those positives will keep the positive vibes flowing.

Now it’s action time!

Let’s minimize the negative triggers. Look at your list. Is some of your anxiety fed from social media? Maybe certain people? Unfollow them. Nothing against them, it’s for you. If there are triggers that are easy to minimize, cut those out of your list first.

When those negative feelings/vibes start building, pull out your feel good list.

Replace the negative with a positive.

If you need some ideas of how to get rid of the negative or stress, I like to go for a walk, exercise, take a long bath, read a book, play games with my family, etc. Find a positive distraction to turn that anxiety into a feel good moment.

Take control. You create your happiness and mood so when you start down the wrong path, make a quick detour. Change your path. Replace those negatives with positives.

What is the “right” age for your child to make a big decision on their own?

What is the “right” age for your child to make a big decision on their own? This has been a topic in our house and one that happened this past week.

Background information — My 13 year old daughter has played softball since she was 5 or 6 years old.  Early last season at a softball practice she was bunting left-handed and took a hit.  She had been hit so many times that season and took the hits like a champ.  This one was different. She immediately cried and her hand immediately swelled.  The next day she wanted to go to school so I let her but I set her up an appointment to be seen. Verdict — It was broke and it was broke pretty bad.  

The surgeon called it a boxers break and teased her she was really punching/picking on her brother. He hadn’t seen this break from a softball injury.

She needed surgery which leading up to was pretty hard on this chick with being nervous but after she said a breeze. She missed the rest of the season.  This past fall she ran cross country and loved it. This spring she wants to run track.  The past several weeks we have fought over starting to practice for softball. She hasn’t wanted to practice at home with her dad.

 

The Talk — One evening I decided to talk to our daughter about playing particularly practicing at home. I explained to her that when you play on a team you need to contribute to the team.  Contributing to the team is practicing so you improve your game.  If she doesn’t practice, she isn’t helping her team to improve or win.  In this conversation I told her if she doesn’t want to practice she should think about letting someone else have her spot on the team. She immediately said she wanted to quit.  I wasn’t expecting that immediate of a response. I didn’t want her to jump into a decision even though multiple times she has said she doesn’t love playing after she took the break. She has the jitters and is scared of being hit again.

My daughter also is more of a one sport kind of girl.  She doesn’t like a crazy busy schedule and takes great pride in her grades/school work. I told her to take some time and really think about it.  This wasn’t a decision to just make quickly because one she walks away, it won’t be easy to get back in if she changes her mind. And if she did decide she didn’t want to play, she would talk to her coach and write her a letter on why.

The Decision — She thought on it and was adamant she doesn’t want to play. She wants to focus on track in spring and cross country in the fall. Last week she talked to her coach and gave her a letter.  That evening we talked and I asked her how she felt.  She said it wasn’t as hard as she thought and she felt great about her decision.

Mom Thoughts — I think as a mom we always second guess ourselves and the decisions we make.  My daughter very responsible to handle a decision like this on her own. At the same time, I sit and think I hope she doesn’t regret this decision or I regret not having her stick with it a little longer but right now I’m not looking back. I will miss seeing her on the field, miss the friendships/families we met along the way but I am looking forward to seeing her on the track this spring and back at cross country in the fall.  What age did you let your child make their 1st big decision on their own?  It’s hard to know when the right time is.

How will you know if it’s the right decision if you never make it?

I know my daughter kept asking me to just talk to her coach for her.  That would be easier she said. She learned an important life lesson handling this one by herself.  Life isn’t always easy. Sometimes you have to talk about something that is hard or uncomfortable but that is part of growing up.