What do you think the best thing about being married is? For me, it’s being with my best friend every day.
What’s funny about that is I don’t think I considered my husband my best friend when we got married. We didn’t grow up together. We didn’t party together. We didn’t go to high school together or even college. When we met Cory was graduated from college and I was starting my sophomore year of college. Actually, many probably don’t even know that we met on a blind date. (By blind, I mean we hadn’t met in person. I may have stalked him 😉 a little before agreeing to a blind date.) After 20 years together (17 married + 3 years of dating), I’ve lived with my husband longer than I lived at home and I spend more time with him than anyone else. He has definitely became my best friend over the years. It’s an intimacy we have built and earned over time.
Marriage is getting to have a sleepover with your best friend, every single night of the week.
We have been through great days and bad days together. Shortly after we got married, his mom was diagnosed with brain cancer. Life was tough watching her struggle and even harder when she passed away. We have helped each other through the struggles which only made us grow closer together. The great days have far outweighed the hard days. We make a great team raising our two kids. When life is tough or easy, during the good news and bad — he is the 1st person I want to talk to. He is the best listener and I probably don’t tell him enough how much I appreciate him always being there for me.
A strong marriages rarely has two strong people at the same time. It is a couple who take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. – Ashley Willis
I’m lucky that we both like to joke around. The teasing and laughter are endless in our home. My kids don’t know when to believe their dad and generally come ask me to see if he’s telling the truth or again teasing them. We believe you need laughter in your home. There is a time to be serious but mostly it’s about fun!
We make a great team. He cooks, the kids and I will clean up, I do laundry, we both clean, we both cut grass! There isn’t one parent handling it all. We work together.
Do we fight? Heck yes, who doesn’t? If I get aggravated it doesn’t take me long to say exactly what I think. Luckily my husband is patient with me. 🙂 And now as I sit here and type I can’t remember what our last disagreement was about. If I had to guess it would be me being aggravated at the planning part. I feel like I have to plan our trips, plan our weekends, etc. He can plan and pack for the farm in advance but not so much a family event/weekend unless it’s going to the farm. 🙂 It’s more about those things. It’s never about money. (as we have the same views on saving, paying house off, etc)
If you focus on the good, the good gets better.
I still love being with my hubby after all these years. I look forward to our lunch dates every day (Monday – Thursday is exercise, Friday is out to eat). I look forward to talking to him about my day and hearing about his. Our work days are very similar since we both manage and both in IT (Information Technology) divisions. I can talk to him about anything which makes him an awesome best friend. I guess you could say a best friend with benefits. 🙂
Most of all, he loves me. He’s put up with me all these years lol, supports me in every decision I make even if I scare him at times and I try to do the same for him. We work together to help each other achieve their goals and dreams.
We both have our guy friends and girlfriends. We love hanging with our friends as couples. Cory also loves his guy weekends as I love my girl time. But he’s definitely my very best friend! He knows me better than anyone else.
Sharing some pics of us over the years (from wedding day to today)…
I know as a mom and wife I spend a lot of time worrying and taking care of my family. Sometimes I neglect taking care of myself. As my kids have grown and don’t need their mama as much as those baby stages required, I have had more time to work on myself. What I have learned is if I take some time to myself whether that is working out, reading a book, hanging with my girlfriends, having a date night, going for a massage – I am able to give more of myself to others if I have spent some time taking care of myself first.
Working on yourself can be personal growth, fitness growth, career growth, etc. Results will happen even if the daily changes you make are small. Working on yourself doesn’t always mean setting big goals or expecting big achievements. It’s about making small positive changes and consciously improving yourself every single day. They can be as simple as waking up each day and asking yourself, “How can I be better today? What’s one small thing I can do to bring me closer to fulfilling my dreams today?”
The best project you will ever work on is you!
I know our days as a working mom & wife can be crazy. Our jobs can be crazy. You may feel like you don’t have any time, but you need to make time. Your well-being depends on it. Whether it’s starting a new workout, eating better, reading a book, getting outside more, going for a run, taking dance lessons, going back to school, getting a massage, having more date nights, or just going to bed and getting some much needed rest — take some time for yourself.
I am currently under construction. Thank you for your patience.
Today is Sunday. You have a full day ahead. Carve out some time for yourself. You will still have plenty of time with your family, plenty of time to prepare for the week and plenty of time to catch up around the house. At the end of the day, you won’t regret it. You will feel refueled, happy and ready to tackle the week ahead.
Do something today your future self will thank you for.
I have no issues being honest and admitting I don’t cook. I don’t want to, I don’t enjoy it, and I have no interest in starting to cook. Every once in a while I get a wild hair and think I should start cooking. It doesn’t last long. Maybe I try one new recipe then I move on. Not being the chef in the house does not mean I’m not a good mom or not providing for my kiddos. My kids are happy and healthy.
I know how to cook, I just don’t.
The joke in our house is when it’s my night to cook, it’s cereal. The kids know I’m not the chef and I’m ok with them growing up in a home where I’m not the meal provider. There are 100 ways for a family to function or marriage for that matter and as long as you are carrying your weight and providing in another way, you are rocking your job.
I just don’t like spending that much time in the kitchen. I’d rather be the laundry provider honestly or be outside cutting grass. I think maybe my dislike of cooking started when I was growing up. Being one of seven kids, if you did cook you had to make a spread to feed all the faces at home. Just took away from the fun for me. I gladly went outside and helped my dad.
Who says I can’t cook? You obviously haven’t tasted my cereal.
So by now you may be wondering what the heck are my kids eating? Well, like many men, my husband rocks. He whips up a meal so fast, makes it look easy and is dang good at it. I appreciate his cooking even though I probably don’t tell him enough. He is teaching our kids how to cook as well. So with 3 possibilities for chefs, it looks like I can continue to escape the kitchen. I will gladly let those 3 handle it and I’ll clean up the mess. If you can’t find me, I’m doing the laundry. 🙂
Where the heck is 2019 going? I can’t believe it’s March already. I swear the older you get the faster the time goes.
Let me ask you this…where are you at with your 2019 goals? Since 2 months has flown I thought now would be a good time to check in. What goals did you set for this year? What’s the thing you would really like to achieve this year, this month, this week? Now, take some time and reflect. Have you taken steps in the right direction to achieve your 2019 goals? Are you making progress? Doesn’t have to be huge progress, as long as you are making progress.
I set many goals for myself this year. Vacation plans, career goals, exercise goals, financial goals, etc. I have met some of my goals in 2 short months and the rest are in progress. The one goal I’m probably least satisfied with myself is my exercise goals. Now I’m being tough on myself because I am working out more than I did the last several months of 2018 so I’m making progress but I haven’t pushed myself as hard as I should. Some days I have, some days I made excuses for why I didn’t put in the time on my workout goal.
WHEN I LOST ALL OF MY EXCUSES I FOUND MY RESULTS.
So if you are like me and made some excuses for not pushing yourself hard enough toward a goal…STOP!!! Here’s the truth about those goal diggers around you…the one you see that works out every day, is training for a half-marathon, or advancing her career. That mama made it a priority. She’s choosing to work towards her goal. She’s not making excuses. And I get it…life gets busy as a mom, wife, working 40 hours a week. I love getting my workout in at lunch. Some days that just doesn’t happen as I need to work through my lunch to catch up but when the excuses for me then occur is that evening. I’m too tired is generally what happens and the couch looks better than a workout dvd or the treadmill.
IF YOU CAN’T STOP THINKING ABOUT IT, DON’T STOP WORKING FOR IT.
Even though January and February flew by, there are still many months and days ahead to achieve your 2019 goals. This is a check-in. I’m checking in to remind you, you got this. You can do it. Visualize yourself hitting your goals. Work hard and make it happen.