Why You Should Make Time For Your Friends

We all have busy lives. Whether it’s a new job, new baby, ballgames or something else–it’s important to make time for our friends. Plus, it’s fun to hang with your friends. Laughing is good for your soul.

Here are 10 reasons you should make time for your friends.

  1. If you stop hanging with your friends, they will stop including you.
  2. When you really need them, they won’t be there. — Someday your kids will leave home and you will really need your girlfriends.
  3. Girlfriends are the best at listening and understand you. We all need friends to confide in and blow off steam with.
  4. It’s pretty boring reminiscing alone.
  5. Good friends know each other better than anyone.
  6. You need vacation partners! ๐Ÿ˜‰
  7. You need a life outside your spouse/mama hat!
  8. You need a life outside of work.
  9. Laughter is the best medicine.
  10. Let’s face it…girls are fun!

This is ME.

Who doesn’t love this song from the sound track of The Greatest Showman??? I love the song and especially love what it stands for. This is ME is all about being who you are, standing up for yourself, being proud of who you are, loving and accepting yourself (the good and the bad). This is easier said than done especially if you feel judged or if you feel you have to be a certain person to fit in with those around you. This song serves as a reminder for all the things we should do but sometimes don’t practice.

This is ME.I’ve got news for you. You are good enough. You deserve to be who you are and to be happy. Stop listening to the voices inside you that may tell you different. Everyone is different and unique in their own way. Accept who you are and embrace it. If you haven’t seen the movie, it’s a must see.

Today I’m sharing who I am!  So here you go…this is ME.

I’m in my upper 30’s. ๐Ÿ™‚ I grew up in a very small town and have 6 siblings. Life was crazy growing up in a big family. One minute everyone was getting along and next a fight would break out.  I learned hard work ethic being in a large family and at a young age starting babysitting. Through my high school years I carried 2 jobs.  In college I worked full time and went to school full time. I graduated with my Computer Information Systems degree. I worked at a retirement system for 15 years and been at the AGO’s office for 6.  Today I’m the Director of Information Technology. This job has been extremely busy, challenging and I LOVE every minute.  I had the goal of becoming a director for years so feels good to be fulfilling my dream.

I’m a mom.  Sometimes I do awesome in this gig and other times I feel like a complete failure. But I do know one thing…I’m doing the best I can and I love my kids more than anything. I’m their biggest cheerleader, I’m the hardest on them but love them the most. I want them to exceed, I want them to be hard workers and good people. I want them to love life most of all. I love experiencing life with them.

I’m a wife. I feel like this role fits the above mom role. Sometimes I’m an awesome wife. Sometimes I could definitely do better.  But I’m trying and I love my hubby more than anything. He’s my best friend. I’ve been married for 17 years and with my hubby for a total of 20 years. Quite proud of what we have accomplished as a team! Mostly proud of the 2 awesome kids we are raising together.

I love to travel. I love to spend time with my family. I love to have fun. I love to joke around. I love to keep my kids on their toes. They never know what their momma will say. I love to be goofy…life is too short to be serious all the time. I love to kick a**. I love to work hard. I love to accomplish goals. I love to have a clean home. I love to cut stripes in our grass.  I’m picky. I’m anal. I hate debt and bust it to pay everything off. I’m probably too much of a perfectionist. I have high expectations. I can have a short temper at home when my kids don’t listen. I wish I had more patience. I regret some things I have said. I don’t cook (Thank God my hubby does). I do clean. I’m a good friend. I love the outdoors.  I love our time together at the lake and farm. I love my family and friends.

I love many characteristics about myself and I have plenty I don’t. I embrace the good with the bad and say screw it. I’m not perfect. But I do strive every day to be the best person I can be…

And that’s the best we can do!

Enjoy your weekend.  Be you and love every minute of it!

Fav words in the song…

I am brave, I am bruised

I am who I’m meant to be, this is me

Look out ’cause here I come

And I’m marching on to the beat I drum

I’m not scared to be seen

I make no apologies, this is me

 

The best project you will ever work on is…

YOU!!!ย  That’s right. YOU!

I know as a mom and wife I spend a lot of time worrying and taking care of my family.ย  Sometimes I neglect taking care of myself. As my kids have grown and don’t need their mama as much as those baby stages required, I have had more time to work on myself. What I have learned is if I take some time to myself whether that is working out, reading a book, hanging with my girlfriends, having a date night, going for a massage – I am able to give more of myself to others if I have spent some time taking care of myself first.

Working on yourself can be personal growth, fitness growth, career growth, etc. Results will happen even if the daily changes you make are small. Working on yourself doesn’t always mean setting big goals or expecting big achievements. It’s about making small positive changes and consciously improving yourself every single day. They can be as simple as waking up each day and asking yourself, “How can I be better today? Whatโ€™s one small thing I can do to bring me closer to fulfilling my dreams today?โ€

The best project you will ever work on is you!

I know our days as a working mom & wife can be crazy.ย  Our jobs can be crazy. You may feel like you don’t have any time, but you need to make time. Your well-being depends on it. Whether it’s starting a new workout, eating better, reading a book, getting outside more, going for a run, taking dance lessons, going back to school, getting a massage, having more date nights, or just going to bed and getting some much needed rest — take some time for yourself.

I am currently under construction. Thank you for your patience.

Today is Sunday. You have a full day ahead.ย  Carve out some time for yourself. You will still have plenty of time with your family, plenty of time to prepare for the week and plenty of time to catch up around the house.ย  At the end of the day, you won’t regret it. You will feel refueled, happy and ready to tackle the week ahead.

Do something today your future self will thank you for.

“Me” time

I love my hubby. I love my kids. And I love our time together. I also know I need a little time for myself.  Even if it’s just 10 minutes a day.  I think it’s important we take a little time as mom’s, dad’s and as a spouse to re-group, re-energize and re-fuel each day. If you are like me sometimes I struggle with ideas of what to do by myself. I think we get so focused on our families and our job we sometimes forget if given some free time, how can I best spend it???

So here are 25 ideas if you looking for some “me” time…

  1. Meditate – Sit, be still.
  2. Make a vision board.
  3. Scrapbook
  4. Have dinner at a restaurant
  5. Read a book
  6. Go for a walk/run
  7. Hit the gym
  8. Listen to a podcast
  9. Watch a movie
  10. Listen to your favorite music
  11. Ride a bike
  12. Declutter a closet
  13. Color or paint
  14. Send a handwritten letter to a friend
  15. Take a relaxing bath
  16. Do a face mask
  17. Write in your journal
  18. Research your next family vacation
  19. Rearrange a room
  20. Get a massage, pedi or mani
  21. Take a nap
  22. Catch up on your favorite blog post ๐Ÿ™‚
  23. Make a gratitude list.
  24. Wake up early to see the sunrise while sipping your coffee
  25. Go shopping.
  • Self-Care means giving your family the best of you, instead of what is left of you.
  • What are some things you enjoy doing when you have some “me” time? Please share in comments. I’m always looking for new ideas.