What do you think the best thing about being married is? For me, it’s being with my best friend every day.

What’s funny about that is I don’t think I considered my husband my best friend when we got married. We didn’t grow up together. We didn’t party together. We didn’t go to high school together or even college. When we met Cory was graduated from college and I was starting my sophomore year of college.  Actually, many probably don’t even know that we met on a blind date.  (By blind, I mean we hadn’t met in person.  I may have stalked him 😉 a little before agreeing to a blind date.) After 20 years together  (17 married + 3 years of dating), I’ve lived with my husband longer than I lived at home and I spend more time with him than anyone else. He has definitely became my best friend over the years. It’s an intimacy we have built and earned over time.

Marriage is getting to have a sleepover with your best friend, every single night of the week.

We have been through great days and bad days together. Shortly after we got married, his mom was diagnosed with brain cancer. Life was tough watching her struggle and even harder when she passed away.  We have helped each other through the struggles which only made us grow closer together. The great days have far outweighed the hard days. We make a great team raising our two kids. When life is tough or easy, during the good news and bad — he is the 1st person I want to talk to.  He is the best listener and I probably don’t tell him enough how much I appreciate him always being there for me.

A strong marriages rarely has two strong people at the same time. It is a couple who take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. – Ashley Willis

I’m lucky that we both like to joke around. The teasing and laughter are endless in our home. My kids don’t know when to believe their dad and generally come ask me to see if he’s telling the truth or again teasing them.  We believe you need laughter in your home. There is a time to be serious but mostly it’s about fun!

We make a great team. He cooks, the kids and I will clean up, I do laundry, we both clean, we both cut grass!  There isn’t one parent handling it all.  We work together.

Do we fight? Heck yes, who doesn’t?  If I get aggravated it doesn’t take me long to say exactly what I think. Luckily my husband is patient with me. 🙂 And now as I sit here and type I can’t remember what our last disagreement was about. If I had to guess it would be me being aggravated at the planning part. I feel like I have to plan our trips, plan our weekends, etc. He can plan and pack for the farm in advance but not so much a family event/weekend unless it’s going to the farm. 🙂  It’s more about those things. It’s never about money. (as we have the same views on saving, paying house off, etc)

If you focus on the good, the good gets better.

I still love being with my hubby after all these years. I look forward to our lunch dates every day (Monday – Thursday is exercise, Friday is out to eat). I look forward to talking to him about my day and hearing about his.  Our work days are very similar since we both manage and both in IT (Information Technology) divisions. I can talk to him about anything which makes him an awesome best friend.  I guess you could say a best friend with benefits. 🙂

Most of all, he loves me. He’s put up with me all these years lol, supports me in every decision I make even if I scare him at times and I try to do the same for him.  We work together to help each other achieve their goals and dreams.

We both have our guy friends and girlfriends. We love hanging with our friends as couples. Cory also loves his guy weekends as I love my girl time.  But he’s definitely my very best friend! He knows me better than anyone else.

Sharing some pics of us over the years (from wedding day to today)…

 

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